The Illusion of Control: How to Break Free from Unconscious Limitations & Reclaim Your Power

Have you ever felt like no matter how much effort The Illusion of Control: How to Break Free from Unconscious Limitations & Reclaim Your Poweryou put into changing your life, you somehow end up back in the same cycles?

Maybe it’s the same types of relationships, the same financial struggles, or the same self-doubt creeping in just when things start to get good.

It can feel frustrating—like something unseen is pulling the strings behind the scenes.

What if I told you that you hold far more power than you realize—but somewhere along the way, you unknowingly handed it over?

This is what happens when we don’t fully embrace our free will.

The truth is, most people are operating from unconscious patterns and conditioning rather than true choice. Until we recognize this, we continue to create from a place of limitation, fear, or external influence—rather than from our soul’s highest potential.

But the good news? Once you recognize this, you can take your power back.

Let’s explore how.

The Hidden Ways We Give Away Our Power

Reclaiming your power starts with recognizing where you’ve lost it. Here are some common ways we unconsciously give away our free will:

✔️ Living by “shoulds” instead of intuition – Following societal, cultural, or family expectations rather than your own inner truth.

✔️ Repeating ancestral or past-life patterns – Feeling like you’re reliving the same struggles your parents, grandparents, or even past-life selves experienced.

✔️ Letting fear dictate your decisions – Playing small to avoid failure, rejection, or judgment.

✔️ Waiting for permission to pursue your desires – Seeking external validation before taking action.

✔️ Feeling like a victim of circumstance – Believing that life is happening to you rather than through you.

If any of these resonate, don’t worry—you’re not alone. The world conditions us to believe we have little control over our lives. But the truth is, you have full authority to change your reality at any moment.

Understanding Free Will & How to Use It:

Your free will is your ability to make decisions, shift perspectives, and choose how you respond to life’s experiences.

But most people aren’t truly using it.

Why? Because they’re still operating from the programming they’ve absorbed—from childhood, religion, past experiences, or collective beliefs.

So how do you begin reclaiming your true free will?

3 Steps to Reclaim Your Power & Break Free:

🔥 Step 1: Recognize Where You’re Operating on Autopilot

Start paying attention to where you feel stuck, frustrated, or powerless. Ask yourself:

• “Is this belief truly mine, or was it given to me?”

• “If I had no fear or limitations, what would I choose instead?”

• “Am I making this decision based on love, or fear?”

Awareness alone shifts everything.

🔥 Step 2: Release the Old Contracts & Conditioned Belief:

Once you see the patterns, it’s time to release them. Try:

• Journaling to uncover limiting beliefs (and rewriting them into empowering ones).

• Energy clearing practices, such as cord-cutting or subconscious reprogramming.

• Embodying a new reality—choosing a different thought or action every time the old pattern shows up.

🔥 Step 3: Consciously Choose Your Reality Every Day

True freedom means choosing, moment by moment, to align with the version of yourself that is powerful, capable, and in control of your destiny.

Every time you:

✅ Set boundaries that honor your truth

✅ Make decisions from an empowered place

✅ Trust your intuition over external expectations

✅ Take action toward your dreams without waiting for permission… you reclaim more and more of your free will and shift your reality accordingly.

Your Power is Yours to Take Back

The world will always tell you what you “should” do. But you are here to create your own path.

If you feel like you’ve been trapped in old cycles—know this:

You are not stuck. You are not powerless. You have a choice.

And the moment you claim that choice, everything begins to shift.

💬 What’s one way you’ve unconsciously given away your power in the past—and what’s one step you can take today to reclaim it?

Next Steps:

🚀 Want to go deeper in breaking free from limitations? Inside The Untangled Method, I guide women through clearing subconscious programming, reclaiming their free will, and stepping fully into their highest potential.